Leading with Heart

A Mother’s Day Conversation with Jaya De Silva

In this special edition of our Mother’s Day series, we had the pleasure of speaking with Jaya De Silva. Jaya is an inspiring leader at Sekuro, a mother of three, and a woman who balances her vibrant family life with a purpose-driven career. Warm, wise, and deeply grounded, Jaya’s story is a heartfelt tribute to the women who shape us… mothers, daughters, and all the roles in between.

Lessons Lived, Not Just Taught

Jaya grew up in Sydney’s Hills District, raised by her mum, a hardworking single parent and nurse who worked double shifts to provide for her two children. Watching her mum navigate life with grit, humour, and unwavering love left a deep imprint on Jaya. She recalls how her mum showed her the importance of loving your children unconditionally, knowing and loving yourself, working hard, and always giving back to your community. “These weren’t things she told us,” Jaya reflects. “They were things she showed us every day.”

Now a mother herself to three young girls, Jaya describes her household as “lively and chaotic – in the best way.” She and her husband are both drawn to the buzz of a big family, and they embrace the noise, the mess, and the joy of raising kids close in age. It’s that same spirit of openness and energy that Jaya brings to her leadership role at work. “At my core, I’m a maternal person,” she says. “And that doesn’t switch off when I go to work.”

Leading Through Empathy

In her role, Jaya mentors and supports emerging leaders, often drawing from her own lived experience to lead with empathy. For her, leadership isn’t just about performance, it’s about people. “It’s about creating an environment where others feel seen, heard, and supported. That’s how you build real trust, and that’s how you grow leaders.”

Moments That Matter Most

One of Jaya’s most cherished memories with her mother came later in life, after the birth of her first daughter. During maternity leave, she spent most days with her mum, watching her mother and daughter develop a special bond. “That time was a gift,” she says. “My mum was terminally ill and passed away a year later. I’m so grateful I had that time with her.  Life can be unpredictable, and it’s at these times you have to decide what is important, as we don’t get that precious time back.

Reflecting on her mother’s influence, Jaya acknowledges the different paths they took. While her mum worked in healthcare, a field still in need of greater support and recognition, Jaya was drawn to business and law. But the foundation of service and work ethic remains the same. “Mum worked hard, but she also taught me to live a full life,” she says. “If I had a bazillion dollars, I’d still work in some way to contribute. It’s part of who I am.”

Raising Future Women With Purpose

When it comes to advice she hopes to pass on to her own children, Jaya doesn’t hesitate: “Stand on your own two feet – especially financially. Travel. Stay open-minded. And whatever you choose to do, make sure you love it.”

Reflecting on everything she’s learned from her mum, Jaya shares a message she wishes she could say one more time.

“If my mum were reading this now, I’d say – Thank you. For everything. For every sacrifice, every laugh, every hard moment. You taught me what strength really looks like.”

 

Quick Fire with Jaya

• Three words to describe your mum: Courageous. Empathetic. Humorous.
• What grounds you? My girls – they’re my reminder of what really matters.
• What brings you joy right now? Slow mornings, spontaneous hugs, and watching my daughters become their own people.
• One value you try to live by every day:  Move through the world with kindness and always advocate for yourself!